The Blueprint - God’s Original Design for Family
“Then the Lord God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.’”
Genesis 2:18
“So God created man in his own image…male and female he created them. And God blessed them. And God said to them, ‘Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it…’”
Genesis 1:27-28
I grew up among strong females. Females who stood their ground, held their shoulders back, and could withstand the trials of life like nothing I’d ever seen. I am fierce, driven, and independent – to a fault. I wanted to be one of those women I grew up admiring. I married a man who was also surrounded by this type of woman.
When I hit my 30s and had been married for 5 years, I began to realize there was more to this life, more to my purpose, and way more to learn about order. The truth is, God designed the family before he built the church. As with anything, he did so with order, intention, grace, and purpose.
Designed with Purpose
In the Garden of Eden, God looked at Adam and said, “It is not good for man to be alone.” Do you think this was an afterthought? Or was this a part of a much bigger plan? I’m sure you can guess the answer here… It was a purposeful process. God didn’t make Eve to sit quietly on the sidelines! That sounds pretty good to us independent girls; am I right?! Eve was designed to be a helper, a supporter, and to co-labor. Together, they were to rule, tend, multiply, and reflect the image of the Creator.
Now, with all of that in mind, realize – Eve was created after Adam; from Adam. This order of creation wasn’t random either. It was foundational. Adam was made to lead. Eve was made to help. But, being the “helper” doesn’t mean “less than”. Eve was essential. And so are you.
Why does it matter?
Think of building a home. Should your foundation be built on sand? Sand that washes, sifts, and blows away with the wind? No, sister. Build your house on stone – God’s order. His calling.
Our society tells us this is outdated. Now, don’t get me wrong, supporting and empowering women is important, and there are absolutely times and places for that. However, within the Christ-centered home and marriage, there’s an order, and the fruits of that order speak for themselves.
Today, homes are broken. Marriages unravel at nothing. Children are confused. The family has become one of the enemy’s most targeted battlefields. If you’re in this space, are you willing to return to the blueprint to determine what your foundation is built upon?
You’re not alone.
Don’t ever think that you are alone in this. This is a real topic that affects families, wives, husbands, children, and families more than anyone is comfortable discussing. Even me. And guess what? It’s hard to unlearn things. It’s hard to humble yourself enough to realize that our independence, assertiveness, and fierce attitudes are contributing to the shifting of the sand. But what if they are? Are you willing to adjust? Are you willing to learn that you can still be strong, fierce, and feminine, all while following the order and calling God has over your life and your marriage?
Join me in this series where we will go through it all - the good, the bad, and the ugly. I’m glad you’re here, friend. Thank you for being a sister rooted.
Quiet Questions for Reflection:
Is my home built on God's design—or on what the world says is normal?
Am I resisting the role God created for me… or embracing it with humility and trust?
What has the enemy whispered to me about the role of wife, husband, or family that doesn’t line up with God’s Word?
A Prayer as We Begin:
Lord, help me to lay down my expectations and take up Yours. Remind me that Your design is good, and it leads to life. Where my heart has been hardened or my view has been twisted, renew me. As I learn what it means to be a woman within Your design, give me courage to embrace it, grace to walk in it, and joy in living it out. In Jesus’ name, amen.