The Blueprint - God’s Original Design for Family

“Then the Lord God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.’”

             Genesis 2:18

“So God created man in his own image…male and female he created them. And God blessed them. And God said to them, ‘Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it…’”

           Genesis 1:27-28

I grew up among strong females. Females who stood their ground, held their shoulders back, and could withstand the trials of life like nothing I’d ever seen. I am fierce, driven, and independent – to a fault. I wanted to be one of those women I grew up admiring. I married a man who was also surrounded by this type of woman.

When I hit my 30s and had been married for 5 years, I began to realize there was more to this life, more to my purpose, and way more to learn about order. The truth is, God designed the family before he built the church. As with anything, he did so with order, intention, grace, and purpose.

Designed with Purpose

In the Garden of Eden, God looked at Adam and said, “It is not good for man to be alone.” Do you think this was an afterthought? Or was this a part of a much bigger plan? I’m sure you can guess the answer here… It was a purposeful process. God didn’t make Eve to sit quietly on the sidelines! That sounds pretty good to us independent girls; am I right?! Eve was designed to be a helper, a supporter, and to co-labor. Together, they were to rule, tend, multiply, and reflect the image of the Creator.

Now, with all of that in mind, realize – Eve was created after Adam; from Adam. This order of creation wasn’t random either. It was foundational. Adam was made to lead. Eve was made to help. But, being the “helper” doesn’t mean “less than”. Eve was essential. And so are you.

Why does it matter?

Think of building a home. Should your foundation be built on sand? Sand that washes, sifts, and blows away with the wind? No, sister. Build your house on stone – God’s order. His calling.

Our society tells us this is outdated. Now, don’t get me wrong, supporting and empowering women is important, and there are absolutely times and places for that. However, within the Christ-centered home and marriage, there’s an order, and the fruits of that order speak for themselves.

Today, homes are broken. Marriages unravel at nothing. Children are confused. The family has become one of the enemy’s most targeted battlefields. If you’re in this space, are you willing to return to the blueprint to determine what your foundation is built upon?

You’re not alone.

Don’t ever think that you are alone in this. This is a real topic that affects families, wives, husbands, children, and families more than anyone is comfortable discussing. Even me. And guess what? It’s hard to unlearn things. It’s hard to humble yourself enough to realize that our independence, assertiveness, and fierce attitudes are contributing to the shifting of the sand. But what if they are? Are you willing to adjust? Are you willing to learn that you can still be strong, fierce, and feminine, all while following the order and calling God has over your life and your marriage?

Join me in this series where we will go through it all - the good, the bad, and the ugly. I’m glad you’re here, friend. Thank you for being a sister rooted.

 Quiet Questions for Reflection:

• Is my home built on God's design—or on what the world says is normal?

• Am I resisting the role God created for me… or embracing it with humility and trust?

• What has the enemy whispered to me about the role of wife, husband, or family that doesn’t line up with God’s Word?

A Prayer as We Begin:

Lord, help me to lay down my expectations and take up Yours. Remind me that Your design is good, and it leads to life. Where my heart has been hardened or my view has been twisted, renew me. As I learn what it means to be a woman within Your design, give me courage to embrace it, grace to walk in it, and joy in living it out. In Jesus’ name, amen.

Can we go see Him?

Scripture:

"Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven."
— Matthew 18:3 (NIV)

This morning, while I sat quietly reading my Bible with a cup of coffee in hand, one of my two-year-old twins came toddling over and asked, “Mama, what are you doing?”

“I’m reading my Bible,” I told him. “The Bible teaches us about Jesus.”

Without missing a beat, he lit up. A grin spread across his whole face and he began bouncing excitedly — “Jesus! Jesus! Mama, can we go see Him?”

I felt it hit deep in my chest — a moment of pure, sacred conviction. His question wasn’t theological, rehearsed, or complicated. It was rooted in joy, trust, and belief. Jesus was real to him. Jesus was knowable to him. And he wanted to go see Him.

How often do we overcomplicate faith? How often do we let it become dull with duty, tangled in performance, or silenced by pain and doubt? But here was this tiny soul, just beginning to speak in full sentences, hungering for the presence of Jesus. No hesitation. No skepticism. Just wonder.

I thought about how Jesus told us to come to Him like little children — how He wrapped His arms around them and lifted their status above scholars and leaders in the Kingdom of Heaven. Children are open. They’re honest. They believe what they’re told when it comes from someone they trust.

And they ask simple, world-stopping questions like:
“Can we go see Him?”

This is The Quiet Work — the slow, faithful planting of seeds. Reading your Bible in the soft morning light. Saying Jesus’ name out loud in front of your children. Living your love for Him so openly that your toddler wants to jump up and follow.

Some days feel like they disappear in messes and chores and endless noise. But God is in those days. And our quiet work is not wasted.

He sees it. And sometimes, He lets us glimpse the harvest in the voice of a child.

Prayer:

Jesus, give me the faith of a child again. Strip away what complicates and clouds my trust in You. Help me do the quiet work faithfully — even when it feels unseen. And let me see You through the eyes of wonder again. Amen.

🌱 The Waiting Game: What If It's You?

Hey sister,
Have you ever felt like you’re stuck in that awkward space between frustration and exhaustion? You started this season of waiting with a surrendered heart — dedicated, hopeful, and full of perseverance. You gave it to God… only to pick it back up when the waiting felt too long. Suddenly, anger bubbled over, patience wore thin, and maybe you’ve shed a few tired tears.

You pray for the person or situation to change. You read the Bible, search for verses that apply, and ask God to move — because, clearly, they’re the problem, right? Surely this person just needs a heart shift, a mind shift. Surely God needs to work in them.

But sister… what if God is also waiting?
What if He’s waiting on you? Waiting for you to slow down, quiet your heart, and recognize the work He’s doing in you? What if this season of waiting is an invitation — not just for someone else to change, but for you to be reshaped, refined, and reshuffled by the hand of the Father?

🌷 Consider the Stories

Think about Sarah, waiting for the child God promised. The long wait exposed her doubt and impatience, but it also shaped her heart and deepened her trust in a faithful God.
Think about Joseph, thrown into a pit and later a prison. The wait felt unfair, long, and lonely, but God used it to build character, resilience, and obedience.
Think about David, anointed long before he ever became king. The wait taught him to lean fully on God, to serve faithfully, and to lead humbly.

Each of these moments was a space for God to do deep heart work — to build strength, obedience, and intimacy. Sometimes the delays aren’t about the person or the circumstance. Sometimes, you are the one God is reshaping. Sometimes He is doing holy work in that quiet space, making you more like Jesus.

✨ Reflection Questions:

• What part of your waiting feels the heaviest right now?

• Have you been focusing more on someone else’s change than on the work God might be doing in you?

• What character or heart shift might God be calling you to surrender?

• How can you lean into this “quiet space” of waiting and trust that it has a holy purpose?

• What biblical example can you draw strength from (Sarah, Joseph, David)? What do you admire about their wait?

• What one prayer can you pray this week to invite God to work deeply in you?

🙏 Short Prayer:

“Lord, open my heart to the work You’re doing within me. When I’m tired of the wait, help me remember that every moment has a purpose. Refine me, teach me, and shape me to be more like You — so that when the answer arrives, I’ll be rooted and ready. Amen.”

When Women Gather — The Quiet Work of Sisterhood

“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up.” — Ecclesiastes 4:9-10a

There is a sacred strength in sisterhood.

When women gather—whether around a kitchen table, in folding chairs at Bible study, at the ballfield, or in the quiet corners of text threads—something powerful happens. We start to breathe deeper. We are seen. We are reminded that we’re not walking alone. That, in itself, is holy.

Christianity was never meant to be lived out in isolation. Jesus didn’t just call disciples; He built community. Paul didn’t just preach sermons; he wrote letters to friends and churches. And even at the empty tomb, it was a group of women—not a lone soul—who showed up to serve, and in turn became the first messengers of resurrection.

Today’s culture often shouts for attention, platform, and productivity. But we’re reminded in The Quiet Work that faithfulness is often found in the unnoticed. The unseen. The whispered prayer. The coffee dropped off with no credit claimed. The friend who shows up at your door before you even ask.

Your tribe—your people—are the women who come alongside you in that quiet work. They don’t need to be loud to be loud for you. They intercede when you can’t find the words. They remind you of who you are when the world tries to blur it. They lift your arms when you’re too weary to raise them.

Sometimes, we find our tribe in a season of desperation. Other times, they’ve always been there—we just have to slow down enough to see the gift they are. Either way, the Lord calls us to walk together. To encourage one another daily (Hebrews 3:13). To carry one another’s burdens (Galatians 6:2). To lock arms in this good, quiet, sacred work.

And sister, if you’re still praying for your tribe—don’t give up. God has not forgotten.

Reflection Questions:

• Who is in your tribe right now? Have you told them what they mean to you?

• Is there a woman in your life quietly carrying something heavy that you can come alongside this week?

• What would it look like to intentionally cultivate deeper, faith-rooted friendships in this season?

Prayer:

Lord, thank You for the gift of godly women who walk beside us. Remind us that we were never meant to do this life alone. Teach us how to show up, to listen, and to love one another well. May our friendships be a reflection of You—strong, steady, and full of grace. Amen.